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Re: Texas sex offender & mandatory polygraph
Reply #153 - Sep 8th , 2015 at 5:03pm
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Yea, reading the stuff on polygraph place was hard for me. On one hand, I can see why they were angry with me; but on the other, it made me look down on the people involved and even the industry, because it is pretty clear that some people enjoyed poking at me to get an outlandish reaction. It almost seems like they made it a game. I am happy to say, that outlook changed a lot last week. There was a lot of swallowing of pride on both sides of the fence. I feel Jay Holden was especially magnanimous and deserves special credit and recognition for his willingness to make peace and let it all go. After talking to him for a small period of time, I realized I robbed myself of getting to know a pretty good guy over the years; but that is on me. While I am on the subject, let me tell you, the reception on PP did not match the reception I received at APA. I was welcomed with handshakes and smiles; the exact opposite of what I expected. It was those handshakes and smiles that made me feel eager to return the goodwill and good faith efforts. I also hope to point out to TAPE what can be achieved with some simple humanity and some basic respect. More got solved in one day, in a few minutes, with honest and fair conversation at APA than at TAPE in October of 2014; and it cost no one nothing of tangible value. All it cost was a wee bit of pride on both ends; but this is simply an investment in the future which will only pay dividends to those involved. I have always said that I love being wrong more than I enjoy being right. I am happy to say that I was wrong about the APA. I was expecting and preparing for the same reception I got from TAPE in 2008. Instead, I was welcomed with smiles, handshakes, and amazing hospitality. I couldn't begin to say what I expected from the Holden's. What I got, was the exact opposite, just like with the APA. I am happy to say my expectations were wrong there as well. As such, all of this goodwill created a positive environment I haven't experienced since my first NPA meeting. Now A lot of promises were made by both sides of the fence last week, and time will tell if those promises will be kept. I will do everything in my power to keep mine. I will make some more good faith efforts to keep the momentum moving. As such, I have deleted texaspolygraph.net as a show of good faith. I have done this before, only to be slapped in the face by TAPE and received no reciprocity in the past for acts like this, but this is not about TAPE. Some of the information on that site directly affected Behavioral Measures and Jay Holden. It seems wrong and counterproductive to keep that website up while positive steps are being made in the right direction. Now I know there are some pot stirrers that don't want to see the past in the past. Some of these people had no dog in the fight from jump street, but decided to insert themselves into a fight in which they had no place. It also seems these people have stood in the way of past efforts to put this to bed and bury the hatchet. These people know who they are, and I do know for a fact that they check AP on a regular basis. My advice to them is simple; don't kick a sleeping dog. Efforts are being made to end this. I am not the only person who feels that this is best for all involved and the industry. I also feel that the end of this will being some positive changes within, which frankly maybe needed to prevent this kinda clusterfuck from ever happening again. My goodwill and good faith should not be seen as, or mistaken as a sign weakness. I am not a doormat and kicking the dog will ruin this for everyone. In the end, if you can't be a part of the solution, stand down and don't be a part of the problem. Now the hard work begins. I am ready to do what I need and what I feel is right to make positive future steps for the industry. I would hope you would do the same. You know who you are.