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Posted by PolyGuyExperience
 - Oct 31, 2008, 11:36 AM
The only way you will get away with this in your polygraph is if you confess it to your wife because they will ask you if you confided in your spouse.  Obviously, that can be used as black mail.  

If you admit to this in the poly and you haven't told your wife, expect to fail.
Posted by notguilty1
 - Oct 24, 2008, 10:34 PM
Quote from: OffWithHerHead on Oct 24, 2008, 11:53 AMWow - that stuff made me feel worse, not better.  


Hi Off

Well, I personally agree that cheating on your wife doesn't necessarily make you a security risk. If it did we have several presidents that would have made terrible security risks.
That being said this site is not about lying and getting away with it. If the job you took required you to have no sexual skeletons then I think you've already covered your options in your OP.
I know thats not what you want to hear.
Is it possible that if your honest about your sexual indiscretions you may be still able to keep your clearance? Or is it vital to your job that you stay "clean"?
Good luck to you what ever you decide. ;)
Posted by OffWithHerHead
 - Oct 24, 2008, 11:53 AM
Wow - that stuff made me feel worse, not better.  
Posted by George W. Maschke
 - Oct 24, 2008, 12:54 AM
Any line of questioning about your sex life could lead to questions about extramarital affairs. At pp. 92-94 of The Lie Behind the Lie Detector, you'll find documentation on sexually-oriented questions that CIA applicants and employees have been asked. See also the personal statement of "No Such Author."

While I have no firsthand knowledge regarding the CIA, I know that in the military there are many with top secret clearances who have been unfaithful to their spouses.
Posted by OffWithHerHead
 - Oct 22, 2008, 06:23 PM
What kind of questions will be asked that might lead me to confess an affair?  Are there are instances where I can admit to an affair and still keep my TopSecret clearance with the CIA?  It happened once after I have been married for many years - just so happens that this is very recent and I am switching companies...I fear the change of jobs may trigger my poly since it's overdue.  I'm feeling a bit raw these days and it's just not a good time for me mentally to be polyed.

I'm not saying that what happened is right. I know why it happened and actually was seeking medical/mental help just prior to it happening .  I knew I was susceptible and I sought help.  I think it was too little too late.

I'm trying to decide if I should try to find a job that uses a lesser clearance (so that I don't lose it all by a failed poly) or should I try to admit nothing and risk losing my great salary (and getting all the questions from friends and family).  I don't lie well.  My last poly took 3 times and I had nothing to hide.  Each one seems to get worse for me. I would never do anything that could leak secure info....  

Should I just walk away from my career and start over?  Or, change jobs and wait to see what happens on my next poly?  It seems easier to let my clearance go at this point but I truly don't think I'm a security risk.