Crissy,
I am saddened to learn of your situation.
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I have wracked my brain and cannot for the life of me figure out why I failed.
I'm happy to help you figure it out. Your credibility was evaluated by a thoroughly discredited pseudoscientific discipline that has never been properly validated by peer-reviewed science.
Trying to rationalize why you failed is like trying to figure out why a coin tossed in the air landed heads instead of tails. Like a coin toss, the greatest factor influencing outcomes in polygraphy is random chance.
Quote:I have many regrets from yesterday... the main being not making her ask me the questions regarding the specific incidents in question.
Your primary regret should be deciding to enlist the help of a person who practices a thoroughly discredited pseudoscientific discipline. I would NOT consider a "retest" with the same polygraph operator ("examiner" is a title reserved for those who practice legitimate forensic disciplines).
Why submit yourself to this degrading and physically unpleasant procedure a second time?
You are likely to flunk twice. Any other result would involve the operator admitting to the unreliability of the entire monkey drill.
Even worse, if the charts produced in the second one score as "passing," it is very likely that you will be accused of employing countermeasures (techniques to defeat the "test").
Don't waste any more time dealing with the operator.
This site has a lot of excellent materials, including a free book entitled
The Lie Behind the Lie Detector. At this point, the best way for you to mitigate the damage to your relationship is to read it, and to suggest that your husband do the same.