My husband has been accused of molesting our daughter. He is a very nervous person and does see a doctor for his anxiety. I told the CPS to test him because I believed that the tests were infallible. He volunteered to prove his innocense. The only thing is that over the last couple days he is a nervous wreck- but any man would be after being falsely accused. He is afraid that the tester might say he is guilty because of his nervousness. I told him the testers are trained to know the difference between a lie and being scared. After reading this site though, maybe I should have never told them to test him. I can't tell him that apparently the test is a science lie, it would make things worse for him. The caseworker asked if my teenage daughter(the accuser) could be tested too and I agreed whole heartedly. Did I sign my families death certificate? ???

He is innocent. My 13 year old daughter has been persuaded by her 17 year old boyfriend. We was breaking up their relationship and since they was in love they thought they could be together if they got rid of us. She thought that the state would let her live with his parents.
Now, the mother is proving herself to be a stupid person because she is harassing the sherrifs department saying that something is wrong with my daughter because the household she resides in won't allow her to talk to my daughter.
As for being on the jury, I would want to too if he did it. I would be the first person to strangle the life from him if he touched my daughter.
I don't know if I can get out of the tests or not. I have to say I like the idea of the tester scaring the truth out of her. The question in my mind is that when it is proved to be a false claim, how does my family pick up the peices and get back to living?
There is family members from both mine and my husbands family that is forbidding my daughter from going back to their house. Holidays will never be the same, but I don't care. I want my daughter back.

My daughter doesn't need protection from me. The reason why I said about letting her get scared is that I think that is what it will take. I didn't mean for her to be badgered. Just that if they would lead her to think that the test is going to tell the truth about what she says, then maybe she would tell the truth before they even hooked her up. It is a lie shes telling. There is too many of her lies that she is tripping over. She lied on two people saying they told her something, then when the two people (adults that isn't involved) didn't know what she was talking about she tried to coerce them into believing that they did say it. I am wanting to get her psychiatric help because I am worried that she might be a little ill. Never thought I would wonder that about my own kid.
I didn't know the boys age when she started to go with him. In fact, I didn't know when she was going with him because she lied about having a boyfreind. 
I ain't perfect. I tried to be the best parent I could be. I was led to believe that if I was too strict a parent that she would rebel badly. She rebelled anyway.
I always tried to be the perfect parent. A friend. I didn't understand as much as I should have about parents not being a freind. I know I have made some mistakes, but I did them in the best intentions. If I get my daughter back, I am wanting to go to parenting classes. I always thought those classes was for people that didn't know how to be a parent. But maybe I need them too. I don't know. All I know is that I am more than willing to work with others to be better than I am.
When a person makes mistakes, many times the person can't undo them. But I pray that I will be allowed to try and allowed to show that I will not make the same mistakes.
When I wanted to press charges against her boyfriend for having sex with my daughter, I was told that I couldn't do anything because he was underage. I have been doing some research and I confronted the police with the fact that it is against the law because of the age difference. They still won't do anything. 
If I get her back there will be some changes, like no boyfriends that aren't her exact age, no boyfriends until she is 16 or 17, no going 'out' with friends unless I am there, things like that.

You have made a grave mistake on several counts--

#1--An "innocent" outcome of the polygraph will NOT prove your DH's innocence, and neither will the opposite prove that he is guilty

#2--The "results" will not prove anything to CPS or anyone else, since most courts, organizations, or anyone worth their salt realize the test is a joke

#3--The test CANNOT "see" through guilt, as polygraphers claim.  A seriously nervous or guilt-wracked person will look just the same as a liar on the test

#4--You could easily ruin your relationship with BOTH your husband and daughter through this.  Example:  the test "proves" your husband's guilt, but you decide it is wrong.  Yet lingering doubts remain in your mind forever because of the test.

#5--The truth about all human relationships is that ultimately, they are based on trust--whether it's between husband and wife, employer and employee or anyone else.  No "machine" or "highly trained" (*SNORT!!* please research how much "training" is required to be a polygrapher) can ever read a person's mind.  It always comes down to trust in the end.

#6--What your daighter needs is COUNSELING, not a polygraph.  A good counselor will see right thought this BS and HELP her (instead of hurt her, like a polygrapher would do.)

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All that said, you need to investigate fully your OWN reasons for agreeing in the first place to having him tested.  Do you have suspicions about his guit hidden somewhere deep, down inside you?  Most wives of men who perpetrate incest never want to admit it.  What YOU know and have observed about these two people is FAAAAR more valuable than any psuedo-science test.

He very well may be innocent, but search your soul, and DONT let either of them take a polygraph.  It's a dangerous joke for EITHER a liar or an innocent person.

1radar1,

My parental protection comment was a reference to the fact that your 13-year-old daughter is dating a 17-year-old boy. Way too much of an age difference and look at the mess it's caused. Nothing good could come from such a relationship as your daughter is a child and her boyfriend is almost an adult. You're on the right track when it comes to not worrying about being a friend to your daughter. She doesn't need a friend in you--she needs a parent whom she can respect, but who also respects her. All children thrive with structure and boundaries. Definitely look into the parenting classes. EVERY parent could benefit from them as there's always something to learn. Also, family as well as individual counseling are likely to be beneficial. You sound like a good parent who's just trying to do the right thing by her family. I can assure you the answers you seek will not be found in the polygraph. Good luck to you. I'm sure you'll make the best decision for your daughter and your husband. Say no to the polygraph on both counts.

I would NOT volunteer for a polygraph. I agree with Retcopper and get a good lawyer who knows child protection laws in the state.