Mr. Maschke,

I have a question for you..If the polygraph were only used as a confession tool for criminals, and only confessions were considered as to quilt or innocence,
would you still be opposed to the polygraph?

Thanks for your time..

Dear George

Im trying to find someone who can help me.  My boyfriend is on probation.  He has been told that funding for the pollygraph has been approved through gov. Davis. How can we find out if the pollygraph funding is approved again.In California.
   We are scared to death that his probation will be violated if he keeps seeing me, for his probation officer says do not date a woman with children, I have 2 preeteen boys, my boyfriend is a convicted sex affender but know children were involved, in his conviction. He pleaded quilty because he did'nt know our laws and was set up, in the workplace by another employee that wanted his job. and he thought he would have to go to jail if he did'nt plee bargain.  So he has probation instead.  His probation officer says he will violate his probation on anything he can think of to stop him from dating me. 
We love each other and continue to date what can we do to protect my boyfriend from a cruel and vindictive probation officer  please can you help? PLEASE RESPOND A.S.A.P.  Thelma

Thelma,
Like George, I have no idea if funding has been restored for SO polygraphs. My gut feeling would be no.
Regardless of the PO's like or dislike of your boyfriend, the probation conditions prohibit him from dating you. That condition will remain even if he were to get a new PO.
His best bet is to seek the courts approval of the relationship. Take George's advice and find a lawyer, then get him to file a petition in the original sentencing court.

oh and by the way i keep hearing the term CM's what does that mean?   thanks

Dear Thelma,

Let me be the first, if no one else has done it, to welcome you to world of probation. It is like a town with no pity, life's tough in the big city, etc. Your boyfriend has earned his way into the major league with respect to probation. If you want to be a season ticket holder, you need to learn the rules of the game.

First of all, aside from already violating a term of probation (contact with someone who is responsible for minors=you), your relationship already being known to the probation officer means this: if your boyfriend is caught, he will be sanctioned. That's s-a-n-c-t-i-o-n-e-d with a captial F.

This isn't a polygraph matter. This rule is entirely separate from polygraph testing. Being caught in this situation will almost surely mean you and your boyfriend will pay dearly to earn the privilege of him having authorized contact with you. That's pay as in terms of time, money, and consequences.

Secondly, more than likely your boyfriend's treatment agency has a couples group (where you both attend) and upon completing it (8 weeks or so), you will become, or become eligible anyway, an authorized supervisor or chaperone for your boyfriend. You really should look into attending that and having the relationship "approved" and on solid footing (it also is a pretty good marriage counseling type of class). 

The consequences also extend to you: you may never be allowed to be a "containment team" member because of your complicity (seeing him despite knowing he is not allowed to have that kind of contact with you).

Personally, I was able to date whomever whenever. Those were easy rules to follow, and the privilege included spending the night with minors present. This is not a case where it is easier to beg for forgiveness after the fact instead of asking for permission in the first place. Really.

Abiding by these rules helps in the long run. Does it suck at times? You don't want to hear me bitch about that, but the short answer is yes.  It may not feel like it, but there is light at the end of the tunnel, and no, it is not another train.

That's becoming fairly common everywhere, I believe. It used to be you had to disclose ahead of time, tell the therapist, and things were hunky-dorey. Now, it's let's have a come-to-Jesus meeting with all involved. 

For sure, it is getting harder and harder day by day. People in Thelma's situation add to the complexity because everyone has to go through hoops now because of others' past transgressions. One more person "breaking" the rules means life gets harder for those that follow.  Used to be you could drink on special occasions, like your wedding. But noooooo, someone had to go get plastered and get a DUI, so now there are NO exceptions to that anymore, absolutely no drinking whatsoever, at least in my state.

That is just mind-boggling. I'd rather take the blue pill and make the world go away.

Neo,
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Please explain how a probationer needing to seek his/her PO's permission to purchase a fish is protecting anybody.