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Jan 24th, 2007 at 8:36pm
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Here's the deal. I'm 38 years old. Never done drugs in my life. Never had alcohol in my life (not against those who drink).  I'm a goodie-goodie when it comes to things like that.  But, on the flip side, I have quit a job without notice (i'm in an "at will employment state"), and I may have taken a manila folder, pens from work in the past, I've filed bankruptcy about 7 years ago, and I've had a few NSF charges a few years back.  My biggest concern is I was arrested only one time in my entire life, almost 10 years ago. I don't remember the exact charge, but I think it was "indeceny" related.  Long story short, left a gay bar, guy was sitting in his car parked next to mine. He was undercover, I said some things and the next thing you know I was arrested.  Fortunately I did not expose myself, but that fact is I was arrested. Even more fortunately is that my attorney got it dismissed/dropped. That was when I lived in California. I now live in Texas.  I am beyond embarrassed to admit what I was arrested for.  I mean, it's one thing getting arrested for minor things, but who wants a gay guy working for the police department?  Granted I shouldn't think that way, it is safe to say that it's not unreasonable for me to have that as a concern in today's world.  That is what my fear is. I don't act it, but the fact is once they know what I was arrested for, they will know I am "one of them".  Should I even bother applying, or should I stick to my guns (no pun intended) and go forward?  I'm not trying to be a police officer, however I'm trying to work as a Crime Scene Technician, not that it matters.  I hear horror stories of people not passing the poly and the background, but I think if I am 100% honest about everything, I should pass legitimately.  But then again, with NSF's and a BK on my record I also worry about that.  Again I may be worrying about nothing, and then again, I may have a point.  HELP!?  Any one here work for a police department that may have an inside answer? I'm a good guy who happens to be gay and had a stupid incident in my past.  Thanks.
  
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Reply #1 - Jan 26th, 2007 at 10:55pm
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Apply for the job, be honest about the arrest.  It is illegal to discriminate based on sexual preference.  The arrest is a matter of public record so you should put that on your application and don't try to hide it.  Best of luck.  (By the way, there are numerous persons with sexual persuasions on forces that are not what some consider the NORM).
  
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Reply #2 - Jan 27th, 2007 at 1:04am
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LOL! Dubster, as embarassing as it is to you, it's a great story.  Heed Lienot's advice -- be honest (it is still on your record even though charges were dropped). Chalk it up to being young and stupid. 
Be sure to say that you learned from the experience and don't spend more than a few minutes talking about it. 
It really is OK!  If this is the worst thing you've ever done in your life, it's not so bad!  Best of luck to you.
  
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Reply #3 - Jan 27th, 2007 at 2:25am
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Thanks for the feedback.  A friend of mine brought up a good point.  He said that they don't need to necessarily know you are gay or that the incident happened with another guy.  I could admit that I was arrested, which is a fact, and I could admit that the charge was for public lewdness, which is a fact, but most likely they will not ask details?!  If that is the case, then that would be really easy.  Otherwise, the last thing I need is to be discriminated against.  They could not hire me for that reason, and easily say it was for another reason - at least that is my fear.  Thanks again!
  
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Reply #4 - Apr 10th, 2007 at 10:10pm
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Apply for the job, be honest about the arrest.  It is illegal to discriminate based on sexual preference.  The arrest is a matter of public record so you should put that on your application and don't try to hide it.  Best of luck.  (By the way, there are numerous persons with sexual persuasions on forces that are not what some consider the NORM).  



If I may.  It may or may not be illegal to discriminate on the basis of sexual preference.  Please note that sexual preference is not a protected class within the EEOC definitions.

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