I have my first and only poly tomorrow for my probation. I'm a little worried for one because there were a couple times in the last couple of months when I've had a beer or two, which is of course against the rules, and for two because of the fact I've read some nice stories about innocent people getting the shaft from the poly. To get to the point, I'm wondering what to do quite frankly. I've heard from other guys who have taken this already that it's hooked up to a computer, and that they ask you if your name is such and such and if your age is such and such, and beside those questions, all the rest are relevant. Any help? Any comments?

Dear Lord, I'm not a sex offender, that's quite disgusting. I'm on probation for domestic violence, and before you go thinking I'm some hillbilly white-trash punk, I'm not, I didn't just walk up and hit her, I didn't get pissed and lay her out. Short story we have been fighting and she started pushing me, and then throwing stuff at my car, and then she slammed me in my car door, and started slapping me, eventually after trying many times to leave, I went on the defensive and fought back, with less force than she used nonetheless. Suddenly, though she intiated and perpetuated the physical violence, she was turned into the victim, though she hit me 5 times or more than I even touched her, I was bleeding from her, she had two small bruises and that's it, again I was bleeding, my entire left leg was bruised from her slamming it in my car door repeatedly, and the right side of my face was very red and swollen from her repeatedly slapping me. I'm sorry I've put so much detail into this, but even to this day I'm quite bitter about the situation.

Well for one, you know nothing about me, let's get that straight. I really don't care what you think about what happened, I could care less if you chided or not. I know what happened, I know that I was definately not the instigator, nor the agressor, and by all means she was definately not the victim. I did not come on here to discuss my crime of conviction. And what caused her to go off was the fact I expressed an uneasy feeling about her going to the movies and out with another guy, on a date basis, all while we're supposedly engaged. I didn't even say, well you're not going to, or anything of the sort, I said, honey this makes me a little uncomfortable. One little statement, she could have gone, all I was doing was letting her know that I was uncomfortable with it, but she could do as she pleased, and she "went off" and started yelling at me that she could do whatever she wished, blah blah blah... The thing is, I wasn't TRYING to stop her from doing what she wished, I simply expressed to her that I was umcomfortable with her (my fiance) going out on a date scenario with another guy, if she did it she did it, if that's what she wanted to do, oh well, I simply told her it made me uncomfortable when she went off.

The consequences of me failing the poly would be for me to go to jail for 1 to 3 months, regardless of what I did, believe me I've already talked about it with my P.O., which would then in turn cause me to lose my job, not be able to go back to college, and it's a downhill chain reaction from there. I have a LOT to lose, everything I've worked so hard for.

Again, I'm not here to discuss my crime of conviction, if "guest" just wanted to see what I did to then go off on ME about it, I won't sit here and listen to it. I came here looking for help, and it appears none is being offered, the only thing that is is "guest" and his snide remarks. Thanks, but no, I'll pass

Expressing my being uncomfortable with her going out on a date when we are engaged is whining? Please. Honestly I came to this website for jelp, and all I've found is a group of snide, think they are witty, assholes. Thanks a lot.

Mr. Northrop,
Odds are you will be asked a generic "Have you violated the conditions of your probation in the last X days?" Unless you are known to have a drinking problem and/or were drunk at the time of your offense, the question won't be specifically about drinking.
How long have you been on probation, and how much time do you have left? Did your PO tell you that "failing" the poly would result in a jail sentence, or did he tell you that any information that comes to light as a result of the poly, regardless of "pass" or "fail" will result in a jail sentence? There is a difference.
One last thought. If your name really is William Northrop, you may be sunk anyway. Hope your PO or your polygrapher don't frequent this board

orolan wrote on Jul 24^th, 2003 at 6:49pm:


I have been on probation for 3-4 months now, I don't remember how long, and I still have another 20-21 months to go. My PO told me that regardless how information came to light, it would result in a jail sentence. My name is what I said. 

It doesn't sound like allot is beiong asked of you.  You have complicated your own circumstance and have chosen to reveal this in a public forum.  Your looking for advice in the wrong place.  The stress in your life would be greatly reduced if you followed the conditions of your parole and made better chioces in life.  As far as me being snide, your wrong.  My questions and comments were direct.  You are an overly sensitive punching bag.  Stand up and be a man if you can.

orolan wrote on Jul 26^th, 2003 at 5:09pm:



Actually there's been no word from me because I've been busy working and enjoying the free life. I did pass my polygraph without a problem. This will be my last post here... for a while anyway. I'm very interested in stopping polygraph testing because well, it is a total sham, a nice prop for interrogation but nothing more.