I feel like I have read my story here on this forum and the stories helped me and so I am going to tell mine in the hope that it will help or at least offer solidarity. I took a polygraph yesterday. My husband has reasons from his past that make him distrustful, but no reasons to distrust me. However, he told me that he saw me looking into the yard of our neighbor when - I guess - he was out there and that is when his suspicion started. Full disclosure - I do not know the neighbor and neither does my husband and we live in a rural area and this neighbor has cute baby goats and chickens and a pig, but this was around the time the new baby goats were born...I don't really know because I always look at the goats. Please understand that my husband is not a bad person. He is 98% of the time a wonderful husband (helpful and loving and attentive and my best friend) and always a wonderful father to our two boys aged 8 and 3. We have been married for 9 years and I have never been unfaithful. I have never been unfaithful to anyone I have had a relationship with. This is both of our first and only marriage. My only complaint about my marriage is the occasional distrust for no reason other than his own demons. I am the one who offered to take the polygraph. I looked up the information, gave info to my husband to check it out, and happily went to take the test thinking it would solve all our distrust problems forever. He even said I did not have to take the test, but I insisted. I went in confidently and excited and so did he. He was already starting to plan on how to make all this up to me. I thought yesterday was going to be one of the best days of my life.
The examiner went over the questions and asked for a name because he said I was likely to have a stronger reaction. My husband does not know the neighbor's name so he gave the name of a friend of his that he thinks knows our neighbor. I have met his friend 3 times - all with my husband. Anyway, my husband kissed me and said he'd see me soon and I took the test and thought I knocked it out of the park. I thought "All I have to do is tell the truth!" When I finished, my husband came back in and we paid the tester and then he asked us to stand behind him and look at the computer screen. At first my husband's arm was around me - we both knew it would completely clear me. He showed us the three relevant questions and the lines were everywhere and he explained that's because I was being dishonest on those questions. The tester did not give us a copy of the test or explain things very well. He seemed to be in a hurry, but he said I got a negative 7 and I failed. I was in shock. I followed my husband out and he asked me for a divorce. We had to ride together. I told him the test was wrong, but he was so angry he wouldn't listen. I found this site last night as well as other stories that sounded just like mine. My husband is at work now, but I am going to attempt to show him this information. I know he loves me and wants to believe me - he even said so when he calmed down and said he would give me a week to figure out why the test was wrong (at the time I thought maybe it had to do with my only having one kidney or having growths on my thyroid or because I was menstruating - I did not know - I thought they were accurate like the examiner told us they were) and then he wants me to take another test. I have read and seen enough now to know that would be a bad decision. I hope that he will see the truth and that somehow we can get through this, but I am so scared right now I can barely breathe. I am 44 and I am an honest person. I thought this was the thing to rid our relationship of doubt and instead it's like a nightmare I can't wake up from. Please send any positive thoughts and hope my way if you will and any other information that might help as well. Thank you for your time and If there is anything I can do to help in this movement, count me in. I love my husband. Please let this somehow be ok.