First off, why even do this in the first place? If you're that insecure then just deal with it. These days there is so much divorce and dysfunctional families, mostly due to that ridiculous show Keeping up with the Kardashians (not that its really relevant lol) but these days, I think its better to just try and work things out and reach a compromise rather than seek divorce. Such a waste of money, time, and sanity. If he cheated, you can cheat too right? I know I should read the whole message you posted but meh