My husband admitted to cheating on me but said he stopped in Dec 2013. I confronted him on Sept 15th 2014. I did not believe he stopped cheating in Dec because he has a long history of lying to me. He suggested a polygraph. He put everything on the table. He said he wanted to prove to me that he was no longer hiding ANYTHING from me.

Now I'm even more confused.

My husband had his polygraph 2 days ago (Sept 21st 2014). I gave the examiner 4 questions to ask my husband. The examiner worded them a little differently.

1. Have you had any sexual encounters with anyone other than your wife since Dec 2013?

2. Are you hiding any financial assets from your wife? Example, credit cards, bank accounts, ANY money.

3. Since Dec 2013, have you communicated with ANY women (in a flirtatious or sexual nature) other than your wife via text,email,phone?

4. Do you access ANY adult websites for the purpose of meeting women?


My husband failed #1. I was devastated. I was sitting in the waiting room and I could pretty much hear everything that was being said in the "interrogation" room.

This was the worst 2 hours of my life. When I heard the examiner say "you failed" I felt this warmth come over my body, then numbness. I heard my husband say "that can't be, I'm telling the truth". I heard him in there crying, and asking the guy to do it again, this went on for 10 min. The examiner said, "No, those are the results". My husband walked out and had to face me and tell me he failed #1. This was one of the most humiliating days of my life.

I just walked out. We had to ride home together. That sucked! He swore up and down that he was telling the truth. HE sat in the car balling his eyes out saying that it was a mistake, and the he was telling the truth. He said he would have never taken the test if he were still lying to me. He said he took it to prove to me that he had told me everything. Or is he just putting on the performance of his life? I have no idea.

Why would he pass #2-4 and not 1? It seems like 1&3 would go hand and hand. He says he's going to get another poly but at this point I don't want to waste another $400. I don't know what to do or think. I'm completely lost.

I've been researching poly exams and ran across this site. Would it be a waste of time and money to have him take another test? Before we took the test that was going to be something we did at least once a year to put me at ease. Now I don't know what to do. I don't trust him and if I can't trust that a poly will get the truth....well, you know.

I just want opinions on the exam. Please refrain from telling me to leave my husband. This is an extremely hard time for me. I am trying to get to a place where I am of sound mind. I cannot make a life changing decision right now.

Thank you.