candy wrote on Jan 17^th, 2008 at 12:54pm:

EJohnson wrote on Jan 16th, 2008 at 4:35pm: Candy, you disappoint. So, you are here because your brother failed a polygraph, for which he told you he told the truth, eh?  Perhaps you would have a teaspoon of credibility if it was YOU who took that test. EJ, It has subsequently been proven that my brother did tell the truth and was not and is not a thief. He has been fully exonerated by a follow up test; a confession made by the thief; the recovery of stolen merchandise and cash from the thiefs home. Pray tell for what reason do you think I should be tested ?

Candy, I was not saying that I thought YOU should be tested, it's just that your story isn't in fact your story, it's your brother's story. "Trust capital" on online forums isn't handed out whilly nilly, and such is even less so when people are speaking for someone other than themselves over "ground truth."
When it comes to testing people on the issue of criminal behavior say for example theft, it is not uncommon that if an individual has stolen something within or very near the target time frame, such words as "while at Joe's, did you steal..." can have much penetrating relevance. This is one reason why I have always shyed away from certain testing modalities----for instance food workers, who "steal food" and other items in extremely high statistical numbers. It is critical that the examiner work very hard at differentiating between the relevant theft, and other recent thefts. Perhaps your cherubesque brother brought more secrets to his test than he cared to tell his "budinski", controlling, co-dependent sister.

Last night, it occurred to me what this forum is really all about for so many people. It's not about debate, discussion, or change. This site is actually a Rogerian Counseling Group for people unable to move past their life circumstances. It is a place were people come, not to develope tools to move on with their lives happily, but to bask in the pain and rehearse the Overextensionism (inability to distinguish different things from one another.) This is a place of masochism, where individuals can chew on their own mouth sores, not because it feels good, but because the pain feels good. Take a look at Mr. Maschke, a man who clings and relishes his professional setback so much, it actually makes him happy reliving the era. Sarge adds nothing of educational value here, but he , like a senior AA group member shows up, tells his story, and gains pleasure from self-perpetuating victimhood. All the times I felt that people screwed me over, or I didn't get a fair shake, could never justify such exhaustive and repeated long term self-injury. To endure a polygraph error should never be confused with being raped, any more than being discriminated against by age or race or disability (just talk with a rape victim, and you won't compare the victimology.) But I must tell you, Rape and Molest victims who have unlimited resources do not require treatment for as many years as the posters here seem to believe they need by virtue of their "formals."