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By all means, do not subject yourself to the fraud known as the 'lie detector'.

You have everything to lose - and 'passing' it doesn't mean you're telling the truth anyway.

If your husband doesn't believe you, he might have more serious issues.  If I were you, I would reassure him that he is the only one for you every time he brings it up.

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I recommend that you not take the polygraph and that you share with your husband the information on polygraphy that is available here, in particular, our book, The Lie Behind the Lie Detector, which explains how polygraphy is unreliable and biased against the truthful:

https://antipolygraph.org/lie-behind-the-lie-detector.pdf

It would be foolhardy -- and a waste of money -- to allow pseudoscientific polygraph results to influence your marriage.

You might also refer your husband to this statement by Gary Smith, who found himself in a situation similar to yours, but made the regrettable decision to submit to a polygraph "test":

https://antipolygraph.org/statements/statement-028.pdf

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Meghan, in my opinion this was foolish and risky behavior. I would consider this a red flag. 

That said, most of the posters here would discourage you from submitting to polygraph testing. It will not resolve anything and even has the potential to make the situation worse. Modifying your behavior would be more instrumental in restoring trust.

My first husband was very abusive. After a few years I began seeing another guy. My marriage broke up, and I was alone for a few years. Then I met my current husband.  We've been married for several years and have children.  It's been a good marriage, but my husband knows about my past, and lately he's been bringing it up more and more, maybe because my job requires me to fly around the country.  I've seen former boyfriends socially on a few rare occasions, but I've always been completely faithful to my husband.  It saddens me deeply that he mistrusts me so much.  I love him and would never want to cause the breakup of our happy family.  Lately he's been suggesting that I take a lie detector test to prove my fidelity.  I'm appalled by the suggestion and by the fact that he would even ask me to do such a thing.  But I told him I'd consider it if that would give him peace of mind.  Since then I've read ads by some polygraphers who make it sound as if the test is very reliable and the honesty they bring builds good marriages.  Of course, they don't want to mention all of the marriages they end.  I always understood that such ties really are NOT reliable.  I'd hate to tell the truth, only to have the tester tell my husband that I'm lying.  What do you recommend I do?

xenonman wrote on Mar 8^th, 2017 at 2:11pm:



Xeno, thanks. that damn near made me laugh.  I needed that tonight

Joe McCarthy wrote on Mar 8^th, 2017 at 8:39am:


Well, 10 feet might prove a bit too cumbersome for even the most experienced practicant of the oldest profession.   

That has marks on it where it was touched by a 10 foot pole

Phrasing

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Well, it's always best to "negotiate" (the contemporary term for it! ) your fantasies and perversions with the sex worker in advance, before actually meeting with her!   

xenonman wrote on Feb 25^th, 2017 at 10:20pm:


I turn away infidelity tests, unless a family therapist is involved.  Most of the time these tests do more damage than good.  While I would desperately love the money, I would never schedule one of these tests unless I knew it would be actually helpful; meaning a therapist is involved in the mix.

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Very sound advice.  One might as well rely upon astrology, tarot cards, horoscopes, ouija boards, or fortune cookie slips, as upon a polygraph!
I'm sorry that your experience cost you $400.  That money might have been better spent on counseling or a P.I. 

You don't have to communicate with a hooker via text or email to have a sexual encounter. You asked 2 different questions

Dan Mangan wrote on Dec 1^st, 2016 at 1:39am:



Ugh

Linda Carter, hotter than every one of them, including Daisy Duke

Just saying

Ex Member wrote on Nov 30^th, 2016 at 8:52pm:



LOL

I prefer June Lockhart because I had the hots for Angela Cartwright on Lost in Space. After the cool Maynard G. Krebs, I couldn't handle Gilligan. None of them had enough T&A, archangels are very picky when it comes to angels. Headed overseas, posting will be spotty for a while.

Prove it.

Forced choice (Think Ray Nelson's "Ipsative-Z-score" concoction).

Who's hotter?

Lassie: June Lockhart or Jan Clayton?

Gilligan's Island: Ginger or Mary Ann?

Charlie's Angels: Farah, Jaclyn, Kate or Cheryl?

We are contemporaries.

Ex Member wrote on Nov 30^th, 2016 at 8:52pm:


Ark, we're wondering how old you are.

We're guessing 62-66.

Are you in that range? Older? Younger?

Enquiring minds want to know...

Joe McCarthy wrote on Nov 29^th, 2016 at 1:36am:


Ahhhh, thank you Grasshoppa.....

Amen.

Everyone is irrelevant in the end.

Pour yourself another one, Joe.

You are irrelevant, as am I. 

The cult endures.

Ex Member wrote on Nov 29^th, 2016 at 12:11am:


Loyalty is a nonexistent quality in todays time.  Everyone you meet has a knife, and is looking for a place to plant it.   

I do take comfort in the fact that, the ninth ring of hell is reserved for betrayers and cut throats.

DTA

Wow, everyone is retiring, except for the ass clowns that need to retire, or just plain die off of cancer or ebola.  WTF?

You know whats funny? If you were to take what was said on PP seriously about me, half the industry would have been killed off almost 10 years ago.   

lol

Joe,
I believe it may also be related to loyalty, a virtue rarely found these days.

Joe, I realize, that to the casual observer, there are conflicts.

Yes, I "practice" polygraph --- but not as those who practice it like Wicca. 

All of my clients know -- or at least are told -- that polygraph is a sham.

In any event, it won't be for much longer. I'm retiring next year.

Let someone else shovel shit against the tide.